We ran into the grocery store tonight and as soon as we entered, a teenager looked at Max and stated "one of his eyes is smaller than the other." I replied, "yes it is." She then said, "oh. well, he's cute."
She wasn't mean harm...and her follow up "cute" comment was kind. But it still is interesting to me how many stares and questions we get routinely from children and adults.
Personally, I think Maxwell is the most adorable, precious boy in the world, and I don't even see his "differences" anymore. But strangers sure do and they often let me know. It is amazing how many double take or triple take glances Max gets. Occasionally I have wanted to pull out the old standby, "take a picture, it'll last longer." Instead, I try and engage the person by saying "Max, can you wave hi?" Or "did you want to say hello to Max?" If they are genuinely interested, the conversation will go from there. Otherwise they will walk away.
I really am doing my best to not be hurt by it all. Quite frankly, I probably was guilty of the very same before Max. You want to look and discover what is going on. Yet you are afraid to ask questions, because you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.
I don't really fault anyone for it...ok, sometimes I do because they are just rude. But all in all, I am learning to accept that people do see Max "differently" and this will be part of our life.
Perhaps when Max learns to communicate with the world, they will focus more on his beautiful spirit and incredible personality. Then they can see the true Max...the amazing miracle boy that I fall more and more in love with every day.