We received the final order today from the Judge.
The only piece of good news is that I am finally divorced and free of that man who betrayed us in every way possible.
The bad news (putting it lightly) is that Maxwell and I were completely, absolutely, 100% screwed. I am completely stunned, as is my lawyer and family. The results are absolutely unbelievable, truly unbelievable.
I am so frustrated, sad, angry, disappointed...and quite simply... overwhelmingly terrified for our future. Please pray for peace, comfort and strength for us...and answers. I am at a complete loss.
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Amy and Max,
I am so sorry!! My thoughts and prayers are with you both. Some men are so horrible and they get away with way to much. I have seen so many of my friend go threw so much because of the father of their children and I wish I could help in someway. I know god is with you and Max and things will be ok, Max is proof of that and remember he is here and with you to keep you smiling and moving.
Hugs,
Crystal and Eva
Keep your head up Amy. God has a plan, we just don't see it unfolding into great happiness at the present moment. But that doesn't mean that there isn't a great plan unfolding! The good news, like you said is that the divorce is final. That has to be a big weight lifted off your chest. Take time to be upset, and vent. Then move on. You have an AMAZING support group around you which is way more than the other party in this nasty divorce can say. You have much too much to be proud of to let this judicial screw-up keep you down. The LORD will provide. My prayers are still with you and Max during this financially uncertain time.
Lindsay Godsey
Thinking of you! Hang in there...
~Traci
Oh Amy...my heart just breaks for you and Max. I'm so sorry you received such a devastating decision. I am absolutely shocked. Please know you are in my prayers...much love being sent your way,
Julie
You know, the person who posted that God has a plan is so right! My friend and I have talked about this alot. Sometimes we think God's plan really sucks but later you can look back and see His plan for you. Watching your updates and Max's progress, I can't help but think God's plan for Max is GOOD! Don't despair.
Many prayers for you both,
Debbie
I am so sorry. I don't know what to say except that I have faith in you, and though I know it will be hard on you both financially and emotionally, I know you will give Max the best life that any little boy has ever had! God bless you both!
Lara in WV
Amy I am so sorry! The man-who-shall-not-be-named will get his one day. Count on it!
Max is so lucky to have you as his mother! You guys hang in there and things will be looking up before you know it!
Amy, I'm so sorry you've been dealt such an unjust blow. Talk about crazy. You and Max are in my prayers.
Getting down to practical details....would you consider, at some time, writing a post sharing exactly what you and Max will need both in the short-term and in the long-term? I know there will be so many variables and unknowns, but you've got a caring community right here. And if we all knew what specific ways we could offer help, I'm sure we would give it our best shot. Please don't be shy about sharing with us how others can help. Max has inspired us and grown us, changing our lives in so many ways. There just have to be enough of us who would want to return whatever we could as a way of saying thank you to you and Max for sharing your lives with us.
Just an idea....no worries if you feel it wouldn't be appropriate.
Blessings and many prayers for you and Max.
Amy, I'm here and I'll always be here for you and do what I can to help you and Max along the way. You are a wonderful mom, and have a super awesome son. God will Provide. He will light the way for you. When things settle down here I'll be up there to see you.
Many Many Hugs
As was posted, Amy..if you see fit, please post or email us privately with a list of what you and Max will need short and long term...maybe set up a fund for Max?
I do not know details, nor do I want to know, other than you were treated unfairly. Do I smell a judge under the influence of a congressman??????
I don't know what else to say other than hugs to you and Max...
Let us as a community know what you need...
Jaye
wel at least ur acutaly free of that man courts and all that this man is iduculous there r times when ive wondered if he knows mums friends ex who is also a bad man but even if he did know how would tat make that same or different for you LOL love you
Oh, I am so sorry to hear this. He will answer for his transgressions one of these days, as will that horrible judge. You guys have been in my family's thoughts and prayers and will continue to be. You continue being a wonderful mother for Max and God will keep you safe.
Amy and Max,
I'm sorry to hear this. I know things will work out for you though. Most people who do not have children with special needs (including judges) will never truly understand what it takes to raise them properly. Just think about how your view of the world has changed for the better since little Max came along. I know in my case, having Tom has fundamentally changed the way I view just about everything. Kathy and I both have become better people and much more enlightened and aware about what "equity" really means. Just keep reminding yourself of what a huge blessing Max has been for you. We'll all be praying for you, but I'll also be praying for the people who are blind and ignorant to the world around them to have their eyes and their hearts opened. I think from here on out things are only going to get better for both of you.
Amy and Max,
My thoughts and prayers are with both of you during this difficult time. If there is anything I have learned, the saying "what goes around, comes around" is so true. Trust me when I say this, it will come back and bite him in the butt three fold. Maxwell is so lucky to have a loving and supportive mother like you. Like everyone else has said, please let us know what your short term and long term needs are. We're here to help.
Amy, I am so sorry you got such bad news. Sometimes I just don't understand our judicial system. But I do agree with another person who commented who said that people who don't have kids with special needs will never, EVER understand what it takes to care for our children.
Please let us all know what we can do to help. We're all one big family, in this together.
Love,
Leslie, Katie's mom
"Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it turned into a butterfly."
Amy, there is a bigger, better plan that will unfold in God's time. I am looking forward to the day when you will post that the most incredible, wonderful thing has happened in your life and that looking back on April 5, 2007, when you were scared and worried and angry, you will laugh and say in retrospect, it was a great day because you overcame and successed in ways you never dreamed possible. I can't wait!
Did you see "his" blog today?
We are so thankful that God is in our future and he will provide for us, you can be assured of that. You have many, many friends that are so willing to help you in any way. I am so sorry that had to happen, but one day, justice will be done, you can bet on it. I hope he can sleep at night.
We continue to pray for the two of you.
Love,
Diane and Alex
Oh Amy and Max,
We are so sorry....We will keep you in our prayers. If there is anything we can do please let us know.
Love,
Brian, Sarah, and Caleb
Amy -
I've been a lurker here for ages but have never posted. It's been such a pleasure to read your posts and watch little Max develop into the mightly little man he is.
I'll echo what inkling said...if you feel comfortable, please do share what you and Max might need short-term and long-term. You and Max have many supporters here, and would love to help if we can.
You're both in my prayers.
Katie
Oh my gosh Amy, I'm just sick about this. Call me naive, but I truly thought this long drawn out divorce hearing would work to your advantage. I can't even imagine how much harder this must make things for you. We are here if you need to talk. XOXO.
Amy,
I'm sorry to hear this news. I hope you're discussing possible grounds for appeal with your attorney. I'll keep you and Max in my prayers.
Kris
The only 'blog' I can see of his is the official one. Is there another one we should all get to read and post on?
Let me know the address please!
Jaye
I am stunned. If there is anything those of us in Kanawha County can ever do for you, let us know!
Rosemary
Hey markcoyle, no point posting at that blog. He deletes anything that isn't flattering.
Amy, I'm so sorry to hear this. Once again the courts are unfair to women and children.
I just can't believe how much this man has gotten away with. But as was posted earlier, he will get what is coming to him..
In the meantime...the focus needs to be positive thoughts and prayers and hugs and ANYTHING else we can do for Mighty wonderful Max and his lovely mom!
Amy - So terribly sorry to hear things have turned out this way. As someone who has been on the other side of this issue, with my husband's ex-wife raking him over the coals in person and thru the courts, then neglecting her children and repeatedly using them as pawns to get what she wants, I must say I can (at least somewhat) feel your pain. I sure wish I had something profound to say. Just have faith that the Universe has a bigger and better plan for you and Max, and never ever forget that you and your son are an inspiration to so many people. You will ultimately get your just reward, as will that toad of an ex-husband. We can all just hope to watch when he gets what's coming to him!
Amy, I've been out of the loop for a few days (my oldest son had surgery) and I just read your blog. I'm so sorry about this turn of events. It doesn't surprise me that he wants to do nothing to help you.
While it doesn't surprise me, it simply disgusts me. He's disgusting and a miserable human being. The prayers of my family go with you.
Amy and Max,
I am disgusted at the turn of events. Everyone on here is so supportive of you and Max and you just lean on those friends of yours. We (all over the country!) support you!!
We love you guys,
The Bests
Austin
PS: the Easter pics.....darling!
Oh...my....I hadn't read your blog in a few weeks, as my pc wasn't working. I am so sad to hear this news too.
Wow, you are having a difficult time.
Thank goodness you have the cutest boy around to help his mommy feel better.
Many hugs.
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