Friday, January 12, 2007

"he's a star!"

Those were the words from Max's nutritionist tonight ..."he's a star, he's a star!" YAY MAX! :)

She is very impressed with how much progress he has made recently with his eating! (She was also teasing me about how happy my voice mails have been in the past few weeks. I'm always so excited to report our good news!)

She is amazed too at how quickly this is all happening...me too, me too! :) For many children with Max's "quirks" (i.e. disabilities), it takes years to achieve any oral feeding.

She was also incredibly wonderful at encouraging me for all of our efforts...and that this is our reward! I love how so many of his therapists and doctors do such a great job applauding the parent's role...it really does validate your work. We are blessed to have such a special team of people on our journey.

It's difficult to put into words my excitement on this issue. When you think there is a possibility your child may never eat orally...or perhaps not for many years, you try to find acceptance. You try your best to accept (with much tears and sadness) that it is not the end of the world and are thankful that there are such things as Gtubes to keep your baby alive with good nutrition. (I remember the exact moment I was first told of the need for the Gtube and how absolutely terrified I was. Now I realize he wouldn't be here today without it.)

During all of this, you still pursue the various methods to encourage swallowing and oral feeds but there are many discouraging days, weeks, months in the process. Times when other therapy goals or medical interventions take priority. Times when you feel like it's just never going to happen.

But then it happens (well begins to happen) and you realize that "oh my God, my child may actually eat someday. We may share a happy meal together or I will make him peanut butter toast or my very favorite pizza." Just the thought of all that gives me chills...so exciting.

We still have a very, very, very, very, very (have I mentioned "very") long journey ahead of us in the feeding department, but I am astounded at his progress already.

He truly is a miracle...and I truly am blessed.

9 comments:

lara said...

Yeah Max and yeah Amy! I can feel the excitement you are feeling in your words - I found myself reading faster and faster because you are so excited! What a big accomplishment! It's great to see Max living up to his nickname. He is mighty little boy indeed. And I love his big boy haircut - he looks so much older now!

Anonymous said...

Amy,

Don't sell all the work and effort you've put into helping Max learn that eating is part of living. And that's what we have to do with our kids who didn't get to learn that the natural way.

I'm so proud of you both! Perhaps Maxwell will join the "No more feeding tube club" sooner rather than later.
Have a great weekend!
Love,
Rebecca
Cameron and Nathan's mom

Crystal M. said...

Great job Max and mommy!! Amy you always do such a great job with Max don't ever 2nd guess it. Now to learn how to chew solids (thats a hard one we are going threw right now) Keep it up and grow nice and big!!!

Crystal and Eva

Unknown said...

It is because of your attitude Amy that Max is growing in leaps and bounds...you say 'he is a miracle, I am blessed'...your positive wonderful attitude has helped Max grow I am sure...how can he not with that enormous amount of love surrounding him every day?
You rock!
Jaye

Anonymous said...

Max continues to thrive with you because you make his goals obtainable for him. You break it down to the simplest smallest baby steps that he can reach those goals. I'm so happy for both of you. Amy you've done GREAT!!!!!!!!!! YOU 2 Max!

Debbie Seyer said...

Your a great mom, Amy! You are very lucky to have each other, aren't you? Great news about eating and clapping. This current illness is just a small hiccup and things will get better again!

Anara said...

GONGRATS MAX!!!!!!! But then you have the best teacher in the world......

Love,

Anara

Unknown said...

Keep up the good work Max and Amy!!

Unknown said...

one in a million